Anonymous asked: I was reading your FAQ, and I'm just wondering why you don't agree with the way your grad program approached therapy and mental disorders?
It was a little too much Freud for me.
Mostly though it was my classmates. I was constantly getting arguments with them. Having 10 years of therapy under my belt on the other side, I would never respond to them… and I’ve talk to other people who agree.
I actually deleted them all off facebook because one of the girls posted a status something along the lines of: “the more I study human psychology, the more I realize there is no such thing as unhappiness… only ungratefulness”. Every single person in the program liked and agreed with it as long as other people.
HELLO?!?! Who the FUCK is ever gonna give you your license? Let’s just take one example for now (because believe me, I can go on for hours)… autism. I’m using that example because this girl has always wanted to work with children with autism.
Now lets think of a little boy with autism. A boy that’s completely nonverbal. That can not express even his most basic needs: hunger, thirst, pain, sadness, needing the bathroom. Lets think of of fucking FRUSTRATING it must be to not have the words to tell someone what you need. To be trying to find some way of communicating but it’s not working.
Now you’re gonna sit there and tell me that this boy is fucking ungrateful?! No. He is frustrated, he is pissed off, he is unhappy.
Then there’s chemical imbalances like mood disorders. There’s eating disorders. There’s about a million different examples…
One way to look at unhappiness is as it being sad. Sad is an emotion. As humans, we not only have the right, but also NEED to feel the entire spectrum of human emotions. Mental health is not being happy all the time. That’s not healthy. Not at all.
Gratefulness doesn’t even have ANYTHING to do with that!!
Cutting. Ohmygod… cutting is not a sign of ungratefulness. It’s a coping mechanism. An unhealthy way of coping, but that’s what it is. Not everyone knows how to handle intense emotions in a healthy way. Some people need a little extra support.
And fucking PTSD. People go through some SERIOUSLY traumatic things in their lives. They’re in pain, they’re trying to cope with what they’ve been through. It’s going to take them time to get through all of that. They’re not ungrateful.
Sorry. Starting to go on a total rant that’s gonna last forever.
Okay, and let’s talk about them using the DSM like it’s the friggin’ bible or something. No.
1- a person does not need a diagnosis to be helped, you don’t need to put that label on a person to know how to help them
2- there are always exceptions… everything is on a case-by-case basis. not everyone with an eating disorder is the same. not everyone with bipolar disorder is the same. not everyone with schizophrenia or autism or borderline personality disorder or anything else is the same.
It’s bullshit. Use your own brains for once and have some opinions. If you really want to help people then help them.
I dunno it just… I get really frustrated about it. I’ll stop rambling now.